tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4539360814743561006.post3032780465846175181..comments2018-08-28T04:03:13.717-04:00Comments on Hurdles of Life, Love & Family: Seeing yourself through the BlurHurdles of Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07689864896914421050noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4539360814743561006.post-20866654204445503252011-03-29T19:44:47.942-04:002011-03-29T19:44:47.942-04:00When I taught pre-k the single most effective thin...When I taught pre-k the single most effective thing was to give everyone a "job". "I have a very special job for you. Do you think you can do it?" They are usually hooked. "Yes yes yes!" "Are you sure? It is a huge job?" "Jumping out of his/her skin-YES!" "I need you to hold this container of beads for me. You need to be sure not to drop them. You know your brother is very little and might think they are food. Do you think you can do this?" "Um hum-nodding yes" After you give away one job, find another job for the other child. Perhaps that child has to cary the containers you are getting. Usually this does the trick. They feel like you NEED them and they are proud of thier responsibility. Most often, it will buy you enough time to do what you need to and get back. Good Luck!!! Don't be too tough on yourself...you went from 2 adults to a family of 5 over night. You are doing an amazing job! (I wish my students had parents 1/2 as good as you!)<br /><br /><3<br />AimeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4539360814743561006.post-54328921542791554122011-03-29T17:46:42.724-04:002011-03-29T17:46:42.724-04:00It is so hard to give each child equal attention.....It is so hard to give each child equal attention.. there are days when you will pay attention to one over the other and vice versa.. I guess it comes with the package!<br />Most of the times, kids don't even see what we see.. so don't be so hard on yourself!.<br />I think you're already a super mom for all you do!Stories of a Happy Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18405023387577997990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4539360814743561006.post-2839448581322895442011-03-26T16:42:15.444-04:002011-03-26T16:42:15.444-04:00A couple of things came to mind...I'm certainl...A couple of things came to mind...I'm certainly not super mom, but I try to plan special time w/each of the kids. I try not to leave one out when we do a project. If one is not involved, they are not in the room completely so as not to 'sabotage' the work of the others. The same goes for eating in our house (we have 'issues'!) - when you ask to be excused, you may not come back to the table to tell us anything, show us anything or just try to bug the others who are still there. Also, I know it's hard, but maybe when you see that "B" is trying to get your attention and you need to go get another container, maybe tell "B" to come with you. That way she is getting a moment of your time alone and also not unsupervised. "Tell me about that book while we walk to the kitchen...." Just a thought =) It's really hard to give everyone equal attention, especially when the kids' needs are so different. We try to plan mini-dates w/the kids each week so they get some one on one, even if it is just helping mom do the laundry w/o a sibling. They get so sick of doing everything lumped together! Anyway - I am proud of you for being willing to accept the help - not everyone is...keep up the good work!DramaMamahttp://goodlifelane.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4539360814743561006.post-46547572998926090802011-03-24T16:50:24.984-04:002011-03-24T16:50:24.984-04:00Wish I could help you with this one. I kind of wis...Wish I could help you with this one. I kind of wish I could video tape our house just to see how Bryan and I react to things.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01563710181712162581noreply@blogger.com