tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4539360814743561006.post7319689565832449579..comments2018-08-28T04:03:13.717-04:00Comments on Hurdles of Life, Love & Family: Guest Blogger: Parenting a victim of sexual abuseHurdles of Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07689864896914421050noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4539360814743561006.post-14596922256419570282011-07-26T02:46:03.660-04:002011-07-26T02:46:03.660-04:00Thank you for this resource. As an adult survivor...Thank you for this resource. As an adult survivor of sexual abuse, I can say that this is something that I could've really used to help me heal. <br /><br />Another suggestion might be to ask the child to draw, rather than describe in words. Especially if the child feels embarrassed or shamed about vocalizing what has happened, drawing it can help lead the discussion. As an adult, I'm a little shamed still about explaining in detail what happened. And I also feel guilty, like I need to shield the listener from something hurtful. Talking through pictures can soften the agony of retelling the story.<br /><br />Pictures can also help keep memories in perspective. When a child has been abused, it's not uncommon for the child to disassociate during the abuse. Memories start to blur, and then it's hard to remember did the abuse happen twice? Or twenty times? By visualizing other details, it's easier to separate the memories into their own distinct instances. I think it's important to be able to break your abuse memories into digestable chunks to process, rather than a giant snowball that you can't wrap your arms around.<br /><br />You can see my story at:<br />soulsnatching.wordpress.comschnitzelbankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16353695238159527112noreply@blogger.com