The movies were filmed in the late 90’s so the outfits were pretty hilarious! Other than that they actually depicted some of the children’s possible behavior pretty accurately. In one movie (that related to discipline and compassion) they showed four scenarios:
- Teenage boy excels at a sport, but acts out in school. How do you discipline him?
- You want to encourage the activity because it is both an outlet & a method for building self-esteem, so you ground the child from all other activities but the sport.
- Young girl is “collecting” things from family members. How do you discipline her?
- You tell the child that people truly cherish certain items and you can also give the child an item of their own to cherish. Supposedly this will help the child to feel as though they are a part of the family and will discourage the “hoarding” of others items.
- A young boy is aggressive with his siblings or other children in the home and is physically violent with them. How do you discipline him?
- You remind the child that this a safe home, which includes keeping the younger children safe from them and redirect the child’s anger through another outlet.
- A teenage girl is wetting the bed, possibly due to a history of physical or sexual abuse, but it could also be a medical condition. How do you discipline her?
- You remind the child that she is safe in your home and that no one will hurt her. You have her clean up the bed and herself. You must encourage trust and cleanliness. This can also be done by providing clean clothes and even a lock on the door.
They also discussed the allowed discipline methods and one confused me. You're obviously not permitted to put the child in isolation, thus depriving them of family time, which in a sense is what they want. A cooling off period is permitted, but keeping them in their room basically quarantined is not. But, the kids are allowed to be placed facing the color for their time-out and cannot fidget or move during that time period... if they do, the clock starts over. So they could be in that corner for 6 hours... how is that different from isolation? I know that be because they can hear what is going on.. they aren't "technically" isolated. But I can't do it. I can't make a child face the wall for a time-out. I am going to install a Time-Out Chair... and get this nifty Learning Resources Time Tracker. I've seen it on either Nanny911 or SuperNanny.. and its a nice visual for the youngster to see that their time-out is over. Oh and for those you that aren't "in the know".. the rule of thumb is 1 minute per year... so a three year old would receive a 3 minute time out and a 7 year old would get a 7 minute time out.. and so on, but have fun trying a 15 minute time-out with a fifteen year old. The proverbial "THEY" reccomend that 2 years old is a good time to start the time-out discipline routine.
I could go on and on about the other stuff we learned:
- No cutting or changing the texture of the child's hair without written consent from the biological parents (I am still sorta confused about the texture thing)
- No taking the child across state lines without written consent from the biological parents
- No getting the ear's peirced or tattoos without written consent of the biological parents (not really sure I'd ever let a child get a tattoo)
- You must take the child to the church or the parents choice -- if they have a religion, if not then your's is fine
- You must respect the child's wardrobe and belongings but you don't have to condone it (i.e. attire that fits into the gothic, emo, or hip-hip categories)
- See the list could go on and on...