With infertilty.. the "normal" reaction by friends and family is "Who's problem is it?" or "Who's fault is it?" Because that is what they assume, its a problem, a fault, an issue.. not a disease, not something that could be corrected with medical help.
So why not advocate for our friends and family to Adjust, Alter, Amend their percepations and even verbiage when it comes to these very personal and emotially sensitive topics. Why should we continue to accept the "normal" reactions, instead of requesting the "appropriate" reactions?
Adoption is the same... people don't give up, it isn't a failure to have your child adopted by another family... it is a choice, it is a heartfelt decision to do something so selfless for the child and another family.
"Infertility is a Disease" and "Adoption is a Choice"
both require two simple, hearfelt things:
Sympathy and Empathy.
Oh yah.. and ummmm... we are also officially licensed. (okay that was a bit nonchalant).. so,
WE ARE OFFICIALLY LICENSED!!
I have a feeling that we will be having quite a few things to Adjust, Alter, Amend in our daily lives, in the very near future.