So because we have like nothing going on the Foster Care front.... I think.. and I think some more (I know you see/smell the smoke). And what amazes me, is that people still and probably will continue to have hope, that P and I will be able to conceive our own child.
"It only takes one sperm and one egg, ya know?"
"Well, it happens all the time, people don't think they can conceive.. tried everything and wind up pregnant with their own after they adopt!"
Okay, folks.. I've given up hope.. not because I feel hopeless, but because I feel hopeful. I feel hopeful that our path to parenthood and family, is not one brought to us by biology and bloodlines, but through love, faith, and most importantly hope. I don't need your hope.. I have my own. I have hope that the child(ren) that come(s) into our lives will be brought to us because it is our hope, to give a child(ren) a loving and stable home.
I had heard that the realty behind all these *miracle* conceptions (after being told a couple was infertile [which the truth is we are not -- in.fertile --> we are sub.fertile, which in itself is funny because P was a sub.mariner] and the couple moves onto adoption, and succesfully adopts) is actually pretty low... even if it happened to your brother-in-law's, cousin's, best friend's, mother-in-law. So I googled and found this website: Statistics on conceptions after adoption. Basically it says that the rate of biological child after adopting, is between 3% - 10%. Not exactly the "it happens to everyone" theory that we hear all the time, is it? So, 90% - 97% never have a biological child after adopting.
And why do I need the hope of a biological child? I know that the hope of a child that needs me, is enough for me.. for us. We are on a path, a journey, for better or worse, together... we have hope that this is the right path for us. I don't need to be pregnant, give birth, or even adopt to be a family or a parent. Our path, our hope, is that through Foster Care we can do good.