We have weekly theraplay sessions with "B"ella (the 3 year old), most of the time the therapist just watches my interaction with her and we discuss anything that came up during the week. She gives me ideas on how to handle the situation(s) differently (which I gladly accept.. hey I am basically parenting triplets here!).
Anyway, this week's session was video taped (it gets erased immediately after viewing).
Here's the scene (TAKE 1):
I am at the kitchen table with "B"ella and "C"indy, while "A"arron is cruising around the kitchen in his walker. We are working on melting beads (for those not in the know.. they are plastic things that you put on a peg board in different shapes and then using the iron you melt the plastic so that the shape sticks together). I am attempting to open the container (its new and sealed ever so tightly), while "B"ella is "reading" a book.. she is telling me all about this book, who the characters are and what they are doing. "C"indy is patiently waiting for the beads so she can begin working on her design. I get the container opened and quickly realize that the beads need a container of their own, so that we don't have beads all over the floor for "A"arron to eat! I tell the girls not to touch the beads so that they don't end up on the floor... as SOON as my back is turned.. up jumps "B"ella fist into the container and beads onto the table and the ground! I run over and move her hand out of the way "NO NO!!" She pouts.. I try to engage her "What happened to the beads?" She quietly says "Fa-war" I ask her "Is it okay that they are on the floor?" she says "No" and continues to pout.. so I tickle her and engage her with my hand on her face just goofing around to get her out of her mood. "C"indy wants to join in on the fun.. so I turn to "C"indy and cover my hand on her face and my hand with her hand. We continue with the melting beads and I get up once to help "A"arron because he was getting fussy in the walker.
FAST FORWARD: Review of the tape.... Yah, all the above stuff was done.. but my perception of it ummm.. not so clear! "B"ella did grab for the beads, but none of them landed on the floor.. I definitely could've handled that better. And umm yah "C"indy.. she was not sitting there patiently waiting.. she was feeling rejected by the lack of attention. It is not easy to manage the needs of 3 children, but seeing how poorly I did.. makes it easier to realize that I have to work harder at it. They all need equal time, attention and affection.
So how do you do it all? Come on Super Moms.. tell me the secret to success!!